Odds are…My husband and I are getting a divorce.

If you go by leading statistics, anyway.

With some studies showing the national divorce rate at an average above fifty percent, its a miracle if you even KNOW a happily married couple nevermind be a part of one!

The fact of the matter is that the odds ARE absolutely stacked against us. But I refuse to see my marriage as having such a bleak probability of success. We’re #TeamTilDeathDoUsPart over here.

But I have to be realistic. There is truth to those numbers. Of the nine years that my husband and I have been married, three out of six of our closest married friends have endured a divorce. Ambiguous stats are one thing, but a real life census is sobering.

Does that mean the rest of us are living in matrimonial paradise? *sucks teeth* Yeah, right! Yet for some reason nobody ever talks about how much work this love thing takes. Instead we all walk around leading these seemingly perfect lives where the husband is the perfect listener, and the wife can read her man’s mind, finances are never a problem and the sex is always banging. Problem is when you do hit a rough patch, the issues seem 10x worse because you feel isolated. You feel like nobody else on Earth would understand what you’re going through. Meanwhile, silently, everyone else has been there, done that.

So why don’t we talk about it? Sure, us wives may touch on some of the nuances of married life with our girlfriends over crudité and cocktails. And perhaps our husbands gripe about something that annoyed them to their buddy after a game of half court bball at the gym. But in general we’re all pretending.

And since nobody is talking about the hard parts of marriage then we for sure aren’t sharing any tips or advice on how to maneuver through the sticky times…and thats the real sucky part. I mean, imagine if we all talked about ways to divorce-proof our marriage with the same enthusiasm that we talk about NeNe Leak’s latest wig selection or Bruce Jenner’s transition.

There’s comfort in knowing that you aren’t the only couple that endures ebbs and flows in your marriage. Hopefully we can all learn to be more transparent in the name of happily ever after.

#TeamUs

#AgainstAllOdds

#DivorceProofYourMarriage

#NoReallyWhatWasOnNeNesHeadThisSeason

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2 thoughts on “Odds are…My husband and I are getting a divorce.

  1. Steph says:

    I feel that! Definitely on #teamtildeath and it’s not always easy! Hubbies and I are still newbies in the married life, but plan on enjoying the good times while working through the rough stuff. Good read!

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  2. Meghan says:

    The problem is, no one wants to be the first to be real. We live in a society that rewards fake behavior so the pressure to have the perfect everything is heightened. Social media shows life’s highlights and people forget that it’s only a snap shot of the best times in ones life and not the totality of it.
    In addition, folks just ain’t loyal anymore. The fear of sharing only to have your business in the hands of others is enough to keep people tight lipped.
    I wish I knew the answer. I feel that we need to do a better job at supporting one another. Lives could be changed and families strengthened if only we didn’t have the fear of sharing. Someone must be bold enough to go first.
    Perhaps this forum will be a source of inspiration while providing anonymity needed for someone looking for guidance and strength.

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