First and foremost… A team is essential!!
Rome wasn’t built in a day and it most certainly was not built by one weary individual running on little more than Starbucks and 3.75 hours of shut eye!
A huge misconception about having it all, is that one has to attain it all on their own! And that just isn’t true.
But lets be real…we’ve all been there. Whether too stubborn, too selfish or simply to stupid to realize that we are mothers, not martyrs, we take the position of us against the world far too often. I call this Super Woman syndrome. I mean, sure we take pride when Beyonce reminds us that we are “strong enough to bare the children, then get back to bidness”. And depending on your age it was either Chaka or Whitney that taught us that we were “Every Woman” But if excellence is the goal then part of the plan has GOT to be working smarter and not harder.
For whatever reason a lot of women feel like they have to prove that they can carry the load on their own. For a long time, for me anyway, it wasn’t so much that I wanted to prove anything to anyone, per se. But because of my family size when it came to things like carpooling or babysitting I never wanted to feel like my kids were somebody else’s burden (Truth be told, I still struggle with this sometimes). I never wanted anybody to think that my husband and I couldn’t handle raising our own kids. So not only would I not ask for help but I would decline help when it was offered (What was wrong with me?!)
And if you are in the position to hire professionals to expand your team even further then by all means compare the cost to the benefit and do what ya gotta do. If securing a maid service to clean up once or twice a week gives you the time and energy to create a bedtime routine that you can enjoy with your kids each night, then its worth it! If finding yourself a personal trainer who can tell you exactly what you need to do to attain your fitness goals as opposed to month (…or years) of trial and error, then its worth it!!
Its okay. You don’t get extra kudos for running your self into the ground.
Give yourself permission to accept help. It’s not a luxury, its a necessity.
So who is on your team? Are you good at delegating?
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